Have our ears become our eyes?

Our eyes are our windows to (our) souls. Whatever we see for about 99.99% convinces our mind. Our whole self and character is based on how we "see" that something. And then we adapt ourselves to it.

In human relations, after reading a lot of "literature" on how we behave and why we behave? I have come to this understanding that "Look" is the new "listen". And the skill to "listen" has actually been lost! 

Many a times we don't want to understand something that is being said, but how we "see" it literally. Reason being, how we carry our attitude is reflective of our self and how we perceive things around us. Similarly, the same goes for that other person. 

For instance, a person says he is sick, or not doing well, suffered some financial losses or maybe undergoing some medical procedures! What he said doesn't matter because when we feel sad after hearing his plight and meet him, we actually look at him, his hints and cues. If he is happy and fashionable and actually kicking, we tend to think that nothing is wrong with him, or he is an attention seeker putting a façade, annoying and to an extent a liar! Next time when he says he is in trouble, we actually think "oh .. he is fake". 

Another instance can be, when we meet a friend and she doesn't seem her usual self though she doesn't hint at anything still we overanalyze and form an opinion that "Something is off. I can see it!" Was she faking her emotions or not? 

What is the purpose of our vision then?

We appreciate or depreciate everything that we "see" but do we offer to resolve a tiny bit of mess that takes place when the meeting/event is over? For instance, how often do your loved ones/friends take care of your vacuuming in your house. Or that's not what friends are for? I'm not talking about your partner! Hahaha! Because that's for another day! But seriously, how often when you go through some trouble with your kid, does someone you know, who is in your network actually come to babysit your child? How often when you are sick, does someone actually make a meal and send it over. My question is about that genuine care which is neither anticipated anymore or expected! We just know that we all are there when we are invited to their homes or life through "message me first" but it's equally true for us that we want to "see" them only when and if we can actually entertain them since expecting them to come and help somewhatl is a question out of league! 

There are numerous solutions to all the above scenarios. There are people who will do all of this for money because it is their job but I'm wondering whether we truly act the way we sound? We sound benevolent, kind, helping and loving but do we show through our actions that we have any of these qualities! 

What qualifies your essence? It is so easy to trademark some one as selfish because we can "see" their actions but do we "listen" to our selves when we are saying something else and our intentions are just the opposite! 

People might send their "hugs and love" to you but how often do they actually arrange a meeting with you? 

Do they actually want to meet you? Or do you actually want to meet them? Why their words and actions and maybe yours don't match with your thoughts?

Maybe because they and we have adapted themselves and ourselves to those artificial emotions that we can emote but don't feel it?It's like a button which turns on the words like "aww" even when they don't find it "aww" enough? Words like great, nice to meet you, see you soon, talk to your later, amazing and gorgeous, ok, good, have fun, whatever, nevermind have become emotions and now emotions that make us act have taken a back seat. 

Maybe the eyes are hearing a lot more than they should see. We see a post we forward it, whether a religious text or some donation links. Yet, how much we act on it is also worthy of mention. 

I'm counting myself in it too. Yet, I do send "hugs and love" to some of my folk's kids and ask them to send their audio and video messages so I can see and hear them, but how often is the same reciprocated in today's world is also debatable! 

Everyday I'm trying my best to act the way I feel and feel the way I act. Some days I retreat and prefer to see and listen to butterflies, honeybees, dragonflies, baby H and puppy Belgie. As they are still genuine with me and I'm with them. Also I don't only see them but I listen to them. Their buzzing, babble and bark. 

I see but I don't over see. I hear but not over hear. I try to trust the other person and also make them aware that I will be there in case I see them in trouble. But I try not to judge them how they appear in their given circumstance because we should hear with our ears, not eyes!

I try not to use my eyes as ears and ears as only flesh!

And the journey to self understanding continues!