Monday, April 18, 2016

Intellectually Yours

            Maintaining “friends forever” by 
              sharing insightful experiences

Friend, such a kind word in our vocabulary, that we often use but, never mean it. Only if we stopped taking this word for granted, we will in reality have many powerful friendships that will last eternally. The only thing we are missing right now is to how to gain such powerful friendship of such magical sort?

After wondering and stumbling through my own experiences with friends, I realized that one never meets a friend by Luck, though you may meet your love by luck! So how we actually meet one person that day who turns into a good friend in few days is simply a matter of circumstances.

Our circumstances force us to become friends from mere acquaintances. Some times we seek (deliberately) a person to become a friend like at school, gym or work. Reason being, it becomes boring if we don’t have someone to share our “life” with. But, we have also witnessed that a large percentage of these Friendships get over when we either change or move away and can no longer remain in touch with those friends. Communication gap meanwhile works like the last nail in the coffin. And the friendship is over!

But other times we become friends with people without any effort to be anything. Like sharing a bus route daily, spending time with neighbors, going to club regularly for a game or so and meeting new people whom you don’t have to share anything personal with. However a large percentage of people end up having better Friendships in such circumstance based meetups. Reason being, you are not forced by yourself deliberately. It just happened. You end up having the most insightful experience sharing interaction with a stranger and there you go. You look forward to meet such person/s again. And that's where real “friends forever” philosophy begin.

Living and re-living by sharing experiences with the people we call friends help to maintain good level of relationships.

Circumstances bring us together and we can take a flight from there. We know the ins and outs of such circumstances but when we talk about it, when we unload our feelings that’s when the real “us” meets the real “they”.

Just share a personal experience and see how many similar will come up.
From happy to depressed, just lucky to just unlucky, good days to bad days, from advises to suggestions! Anything that STARTs a real and genuine conversation can make you a person a genuinely worthy friend and deep down nobody wants to lose such a resourceful person. Your resource is your way of looking at life and sharing it with others, what you have learned!

Therefore, a mere hello and plus few sentences (for the sake of keeping in touch) can never mean that you know that person very well though at a time you knew them in middle school. Now it doesn’t count to be included in anything because the relationship has changed from friendship to acquaintance! And that change came because the experience sharing interaction has come to a halt. We just catch up in the most casual way but nothing is real deal.

However, the more insightful and true you become to yourself, and the more you practice an interaction based on your experience, and by listening up the other side as well, the more people will join you as friends and will be there with you forever.

Just be sure a good friend is also a good and patient listener. That’s the key to unlock the door of maintaining Friendships, the door is though made up of sharing insightful experiences and asking them to indulge as well.


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